If you're a person that's ever picked up a book on Paganism 101, spell-casting, etc. then you've heard a variation of the basics of magic. In most books, the following things must occur to create a successful spell:
- The intent. This is what you want to happen.
- The tools. These are the basic items you're using to set up your spell.
- The words. The words of power you're saying.
- The visualization. The clear image in your head of your intended end result.
You also tend to hear, read, or otherwise come to the warning that "Magic always works, but not always in the way you intend it to." The best example of this is wishing for money, then you come into an inheritance after your mother passes away suddenly. However, there's a problem with this logic. This kind of example implies that your simple money spell somehow turned into a death curse aimed at your mother.
Here's a tip from me to you: THIS. CAN'T. HAPPEN.
I disagree that magic always works. I believe that every time you perform spells you expend some sort of energy, but if magic always worked a heck of a lot more people would be winning the lottery. The problem, I think, that a lot of people have is that they don't honestly know what they want to happen. Sure, someone might perform a True Love Spell, but they don't have any honest concept for what qualities their true love should have.
In this example, you might have a person that continues to buy the pink and red candles, and the right herbs, and saying all sorts of combinations of words, and praying to every love deity they can Wikipedia, but they can never find love. We must be clear, concise, and simple in our ideas. Have you ever noticed that your spells for the simplest things are the ones that manifest quickest? It's because you know exactly what it is that you want to happen. You know exactly what tools you need, and you say simple, clear words of power. Like, wanting tomorrow's weather to be clear and sunny. You have a concept of "clear sky" and "sunny." I actually made a very long list of the qualities that I felt my partner should have. It took me a while, and I made sure to not be unrealistic, but not too conservative either. Within a year of making that list, I met my partner of 3 1/2 years.
The problem comes when you're talking about esoteric, abstract concepts like "love" or "wealth." Get at the root of what you want. You may not want to be wealthy, or even well-off, but you may want to be comfortable with a little money left over at the end of the month for savings. (That was my goal.) So, stop performing money spells, and write down exactly what life situation you want to be in. Likewise, you can quit performing spells to draw a lover and replace them with a clearly written petition to the universe of the qualities that you want to find in another person.
However, you may find that you don't have enough money, because you keep spending too much. Or, you may have trouble dating, because you tend to be abrasive or self-loathing. Make sure that before you do spells of any kind, that you've prayed and meditated on the matter. Perhaps your higher power has been telling you to save more, invest, spend less, carpool to conserve gas, or whatever. Listen to those words! Those feelings are there to help you.
On a slightly different note, I've been asked on occasion to perform bindings, banishments, or curses for people. Rarely do I ever oblige the request, but when I feel that their situation merits some magical self-defense, I help where I can. Only a couple of times in my life have I performed an outright curse, and only once has it ever worked. The reason is this: the first time I was performing a curse, it was for me. The second time it was for someone else. Curses are spells that require a lot of energy, a lot of very personal energy, and emotion that someone who is not directly involved with the situation simply doesn't have. So keep in mind, if you ever ask someone else to perform magic for you, they don't have the same connection to the situation that you have. They cannot clearly imagine, as you could, what you want to happen, exactly how you want it.
What do you think about the nature of magic? Am I wrong? Right? Let me know!
Love and Lyte,