I reported a few days ago about a boy named Derrick Martin whose school has approved him and his boyfriend to attend prom together...as a couple. This would be a wonderful thing, except that the amount of press surrounding Derrick's prom triumph has proven too much for his parents.
But because of the media attention, Martin’s parents have kicked him out and the teen is staying with a friend, he said.
Even though so many people have been coming out of the woodwork to support Derrick, his boyfriend, and their family, the parents of this young man don't want all of the hullabaloo surrounding having an activist icon. It doesn't matter how many limos you offer to rent or tuxes you send, if the boy doesn't have the support of his parents the whole thing becomes rather bitter tasting.
gay teens find themselves in this situation, where parents just cannot deal with having a gay, bisexual, or transgender child under their roof. We know people are afraid of what they don't know, but it is strange to think that parents can pretend to legitimately not know their own children, despite sexual orientation.
I actually went through a period with my parents, years ago, where they wanted me to move out, because they just didn't know how to deal with my dating guys. Now we're great, and they love my partner, but there was a time, a very long time, where things were very bad between us. During that time I had resolved that my parents probably would never be a part of my life. I'm glad I'm wrong, but, statistically, I'm one of the lucky ones.
Derrick Martin's story, no doubt, will have a happy ending. He's a handsome young man who's getting plenty of media attention. Even if his parents don't take him back, he'll have the gay community at large to fall back on. If he works this right, he could get book deals, a show on LOGO or Bravo, television appearances, and turn his story into a nice living.
But what about the hundreds of thousands of other teens? Who speaks for them?
Happy prom, Derrick. I hope you use this opportunity to turn 15-minutes of fame into a public outcry against parents kicking their children out of their homes just because they would also like to take their boyfriend or girlfriend to prom.
Love and Lyte,