But, it's more than just a lack of pagan friends; I haven't made too many 'friends' in Chicago at all. We moved here and haven't really been able to put down roots. Until recently, that is.
It's an odd thing to try and make social connections outside of typical social settings like school or work. Now, though, I am finally resting. Or, at least, getting comfortable.
Today marked my 90th day with my company. That, for some odd reason, is the magic number of days it takes for me to officially work there. Like, for permanent. Since I moved here I haven't worked at any job past the 90 day mark. I served coffee, waited tables, worked back in the juvenile system, worked at a lower-end designer shop, and all of this in the last year. But, now I'm reaching a 90 day mark somewhere. I'm putting down roots.
And I have a party coming up!
That's right! I have planned my first party for a few friends from work - and a few from what amounts to the shreds of my social life - on October 30th, a Saturday. This is my first time truly entertaining at our new place. Partner and I need this. It sort of completes a process of nesting in the new place. Once you've made your house your home, you've gotten comfortable in a job, you deserve to have a life.
So maybe, just maybe, this is a sign that I might be on the path to gaining a pagan friend. I don't really know why having non-magical friends means that I'm any closer to having a pagan buddy, but perhaps. I think if you put it out in the universe, if you've prepared a space in your life and psyche for someone, then maybe...just maybe...you'll be rewarded for that. Oh wait, I busted the Law of Attraction.
What are your Samhain plans? Do they include a get together with like-minded pals, or trick or treating with the kiddies? Let me know!
Love and Lyte,