Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Bullying and the rash of Recent Suicides

Honestly, I know a lot of you are expecting me to comment on this. Hell, as of today you don't even need to Google 'gay' in the news feed to see the headlines about several recent attempts and successes of gay teens committing suicide. Fortunately - or maybe unfortunately - I have had the...luck...we'll call it, to not have been sitting in front of a television or listening to the news when these stories were reported.

What's sad when it comes to my reaction to these stories is that I didn't really react. Nothing about the 13-year-old boy who killed himself or the 18-year-old young adult whose story just broke today or the two that happened just weeks prior...nothing about these is new.

And it sucks that I have to say that.

It sucks that bullying is such a problem and that so many people kill themselves, think about killing themselves, think about blowing up a school, think about fading into nothingness...because of other people. And it sounds so juvenile when you talk about it as a "well-rounded adult." It sounds almost patronizing to call it bullying and write it off as schoolyard taunting, when it is so much more than that.

I've talked pretty openly about my suicidal ideations when I was a teenager. And, it's funny. When you're the person who wanted to kill themselves - but didn't - you talk about it as though I wanted to, but didn't have to balls to do it. Then, when I got older, I learned better. If you've never thought about jumping off a bridge or hanging yourself in your backyard (as these teens did), then you think of not killing yourself as brave. As sane. But, when you're that kid who has nobody - not even family...not even God - and you firmly believe that everything about you is a bastardization of normalcy, then you don't think it's brave. You think of it as doing the world a favor. 

You think of it as better.

What's even more fucked up is that the mainstream conversation is how normalized, desensitized we're all supposedly becoming to gays, lesbians, and transexuals. Recent reports from GLAAD tell how, for the third year in a row, more gay characters are appearing in more of the highest rated shows on television. Hollywood is portraying gay folks as actual human beings and not just as hilarious little eunuchs dancing for our enjoyment.

But what does that mean? What the hell does any of this mean when suicide - SUICIDE - is the third leading cause of death for teens. And, furthermore, studies show that GLBT teens are 2-4 times more likely to commit suicide. If those teens are - or believe they will be - rejected by their family, that number shoots up to 8-9 times more likely to commit suicide.

So Hollywood is fine with piping in gay folks to a tv near you. This generation is preached about as the most tolerant of any past generation, what with integration being something in a history book and religion and sexual orientation being so open and fluid these days. And still....still gay teen suicide is on the rise.

See, this is why I said fortunately I didn't see the news stories when they were originally reported. I've gotten them on internet news feeds, which I think is better for me. I can be numb to a screen. I can not have my high school days bubble up in memory from text on a screen. But...seeing these faces. Hearing their names and circumstances. That's when it makes it hard to not turn into a puddle of concern and tears and pleas to the divine for intercession. 

We are killing our youth with our intolerance.

And I'd really, really like to know when it's going to stop. I'd like you to please take a moment and look into the faces of these two individuals. These two souls who have passed on, who fell victim to an age, a country, an intolerant society. Bless them. And then swear to yourself that you'll be better. I'm not asking you to call a Senator or Representative this time. I'm not swinging pitchfork and torch and raising the masses for a Riot. I'm asking you to be better. Show tolerance next time.

Next time that Jew or that black guy or that Sikh or that Muslim or that Christian or that Pagan or that Chinese woman or that person...whoever they are...next time that human does something you don't like. Next time they are rude or a little too in your face. I'm asking you not to attribute it to anything about their respective community/ies. I'm asking you to be better. It starts with you. Just forgive it. Forgive it. You don't need that intolerance sitting in your belly, rotting away, anyways. Be better.

Remember:

This is Seth Walsh. He was 13 when he hung himself in his backyard, because he couldn't take the bullying of his classmates anymore due to him being gay.
This is Tyler Clementi. He was 18 when he threw himself off a bridge, because his roommate posted a live feed of him having gay sex on the internet for the world to see.
Love and Lyte,

Fire Lyte

Monday, September 27, 2010

Playing with God-Doh

A young boy sits down at his craft table. He has an assortment of coloring implements, pages to draw on, pictures to paint, and toys that let him build miniature versions of the world’s great wonders. Instead of these, he picks up the yellow tube with the blue lid. Today, he wants the blue Play-Doh. He uses this malleable dough to create a parrot, a toy gun, and a plate for his mother. Each item now individual, but each item still part of the same original stuff. Likewise, if you were to take the parrot, the toy gun, and the plate, pile them onto one another, and squish…you get another ball of blue Play-Doh.

There are many cultures around the world that have believed, at different points in time, that the nature of the divine is a lot like a young boy playing with dough. You have an original source that, through the actions and perceptions of man, is turned into an individualized, anthropomorphized, unique entity. This new entity is then treated with a set of individualized, unique adorations, sacrifices, lore, etc. Everything a God or Goddess needs to be a God or Goddess.

This is also what gives the various deities their hierarchal structure. The older and closer to the source the deity is, the higher up on the food chain that deity tends to be. Now, I did just say closer to the source, which means there are deities that are farther away from the source. This implies exactly what that logic might lead one to believe: newer gods can and are formed from the dough that was used to make the older gods. Bits and pieces of deities from cultures eons gone by are gathered, pressed, and formed into new deities that are treated as both something old and new.

I’ve done it before, and not to beat a dead horse or anything, but let’s play follow the divine trail with everyone’s favorite Greek Goddess of Wisdom…Athena! I mean Neith, the Egyptian Goddess of war, women, marriage, weaving, death, and wisdom. Why do I mean Neith? Well, if you’ve done enough homework you should know by now that there’s hardly a deity out there that was an original idea all to themselves.

The ancient Egyptian civilization heavily influenced the spiritual beliefs and practices of the Mediterranean, leading to direct and indirect rip-offs of their deities. As villages, territories, and countries were conquered, these beliefs became mixed up with those of the natives. When people liked - or were forced to like - a new idea or deity, they incorporated it into their practice. One could easily say that ancient Greek and Roman cultures were perfect models for modern-day eclectic spirituality.

And Neith? She’s not an entity unto herself, either. Ta-nit, a Phoenician lunar goddess, is thought to be her predecessor. She was a sky-dwelling lunar goddess who was in charge of war, mothers, nurses, and fertility. And Ta-nit evolved from the even more ancient Semitic goddess Anat - which sort of looks like Athena…at least if you take Anat and her later face Neith and squish them together.

The more we know about religious and spiritual history, the more we find out that since there were people, there were names for the divine. People have always been playing with God-Dough. So an ancient Semitic mother/war goddess eventually got smashed and thought about differently and turned into Athena (whose Greek history even had to be changed as her myth was so ancient the characters in her story had to be updated to stay with the times).

It happens just like you’d think it would. One war goddess gets taken to different parts of the world, changing to match the culture. It wasn’t until the idea of the war goddess had reached Egypt that she was given a face. And it wasn’t until she came to Greece that she was given the intellectual or philosophical aspects, making her as much a psychological component of humanity as she was an aspect of the divine.

It is here in this space, this mixture of the divine as an aspect of the universal divine and as individual personalities, that I vacillate. And, using this idea, I can find value in the ideas of polytheism and pantheism. The idea that there are multiple gods versus the idea that all gods are the same just with different names and faces. I think neither is correct, because these boxes are too strict, and they don’t take into account the historical veracity of deity.

This is truly the puzzle of an academic seeker of the divine. Or, at least, it has been my puzzle. I’m sure that this is not a monotheistic perspective, as it takes into account the notion that there is more than one deity. However, it is definitely not the fancier version of monotheism called henotheism, in which the mere idea of other gods is not out of the question while one supreme deity is what is worshipped.

Another ‘theism’ term is Kathenotheism, which was coined by philologist Max Muller. This is the idea that allows for more than one deity, however, only one deity is worshipped at a time. Think of Kathenotheism like this: first there was Anat, but then Ta-nit was worshipped, and then Neith, and then Athena. It doesn’t mean that Anat, Ta-nit, or Neith are not goddesses, it just means that Athena is the one who is worshipped now. Kathenotheism says that each deity has a time in which they reign, and then the reins are handed over to the next evolution.

This definition might work, except it is too closely related to the idea that there is only one deity, or one chain of deities. We could do the same ‘follow the evolution’ game with nearly any deity out there, not just Athena. So…that’s bunk.

Thus, I propose Doughtheism. It says that humans take ideas, concepts, perceptions, and lore from older cultures and modernize them. Sure, maybe we still call Athena the Goddess of Wisdom, and her name and myth haven’t completely changed due to her worldwide fame, but who is she now? Is she the same complex Goddess that can both kick butt and walk you to the underworld? Is she both dabbling in witchcraft and reading philosophy? Or, is she just the Goddess of Good Decisions that we call upon when we have a tough choice before us?

Doughtheism, while not an actual word - nor one that I’d write Webster’s about - is more of a concept, an understanding. It is the knowledge that the gods of our understanding look and act the way they do, because that is how our culture (and, more specifically, we) understands them. It fits for us.

It’s the same thing as blaming Hermes for your misfired email during Mercury Retrograde. The ancient Greeks and Romans had no concept of email, nor anything close to that kind of technology, and maybe would not have thought of Hermes as having anything tangentially to do with computers. However, in the modern version of Hermes/Mercury, he is simply the God of Communication and Business. Sure, we know him as a psychopomp and the inventor of many things, but the main trigger words are communication and business. Thus, we now lump new objects of communication in with his duties.

I get the feeling modern man likes their gods neat and orderly.

So what does this mean? What would it mean if humans truly did invent the names and concepts of the gods, sculpting them out of God-Dough throughout the ages? Does that mean there really is no divine, and that they are just psychological constructs? Or does it mean the exact opposite, and there are an infinite number of deities?

What I think I’ve found - and this is only true in my worldview; your mileage may vary - is that it’s all a little bit true. The names and faces and attitudes that we’ve given the gods over the eons are equally adequate and inadequate. They work and they don’t. Surely Athena and Anat have much in common, but they have just as much - if not more - that differentiates them. One is the cause and the other is the effect. One is the evolved, or squished, version of the other.

Using the broadest ‘theism’ terms, this works on a pantheistic worldview. All gods are the same blue Play-Doh. They’ve just been slowly, over thousands of years, rubbed and sculpted and squished together and rolled up into different incarnations. Specifically, this is a very Kathenotheistic view, in that each deity has a reign before it is rolled up and turned into something else.

Except that worldview is too limiting. It doesn’t fully explain how both Zeus and Athena and Isis and Horus and Odin and Loki could all be deities, especially be deities at the same time. It doesn’t explain how both Neith and Athena can be worshipped simultaneously in two cultures. One should die for the other to live, right?

Polytheism helps us to explain these issues. Back to the blue dough analogy in the beginning. Once the dough has been formed into a parrot, the young boy deals with the dough as though it were a parrot. He might try and flap its wings or put it in a cage. He might talk to it and pretend it talks back. He might name it and rub its feathers and feed it crackers - perhaps leaving bits of salty goodness in the dough. It is simultaneously dough and a parrot. It has the potential to be changed. If the boy feels the beak no longer works, then he can take it off, mush it around, and make it straighter or more curved or turn it into lips. The parrot is as much a reflection of the boy as the boy is affected by the joy the toy parrot brings.

So, too, are the gods through the ages. They change right along with the culture in which they find themselves. Athena is not Anat, and is not treated as such. The Greeks would not have said, “Yes, we see Anat as Athena.” And I’m sure Athena was not seen the same way depending on which Greek you asked. (Actually, I’m certain of this given the many names attributed to Athena, but that’s another article.) Once the dough is changed, it is treated as this new entity, but it doesn’t erase the old one.

The boy’s friend comes over, sees how much fun the boy is having with the parrot, and decides to make a bird of his own. Except, this new bird is more of an eagle than a parrot, but the boy enjoys it just the same. It is now a hunter, a raptor, instead of an exotic, talking rainbow bird. Each boy has their own bird made of the same stuff.

I had a discussion one time with a person studying religious philosophy with me who said that there is no correct path to God. We don’t have a true, accurate, 100% correct method for knowing the exact nature of the divine. However, somewhere out there amidst the hundreds or thousands of faiths around the world lies the truth. You just have to squish it all together.

I believe that is the most correct method of understanding the divine. The Gods are not necessarily one entity that is just called things, because they are too vast and varied to be completely the same. It’s the odd conundrum of having a Goddess of War that is also a Goddess of Peace. However, the Gods are not wholly separate either. Though, they are - and should be - treated as such.

I would not dare worship Neith in the same manner as Athena, as the two are different. The cultures they come from have formed them into the Goddesses of their understanding, and they are to be treated as such. The parrot and the eagle might come from the same stuff, but you would not expect the eagle to sit on your hand and talk to you, content on eating crackers.

Each deity is just as real and individual as the toys children create from Play-Doh. They came from the same yellow tube, but that’s about where it ends. They’re slowly changed over time, being nudged, added to, taken away from, and all out mutated from culture to culture. But, once they are changed, they are - and should be - treated as individual. As the eagle who is no longer the parrot.

Doughtheism… Maybe I will write Webster’s.

Love and Lyte,

Fire Lyte

Sunday, September 26, 2010

Events this week!

Rioters!!!

I'm sorry, the size of those exclamation marks doesn't do this week's events justice...

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This week is the first annual Pagan Podkin Supermoot! The voices behind Witches BrewHaha, Inciting A Riot, Pagan Hooligans, New World Witchery, Lakefront Pagan Voice, Urban Green Witch, and Iron Powaqa will be descending upon the Chicagoland area THIS WEEKEND!!! October 1-3rd, these podkin are going to be geeking out hardcore while meeting one another. And, I'm sure there will be plenty of podcast episodes made those evenings.

How does this effect you?! Well, you can meet all of us! We will be at Witchy Wearables in Midlothian, IL this Saturday, October 2nd, from 11am-1pm. Witchy Wearables has a craft fair going on this weekend, and we'd like to support it and meet all of you! 

Furthermore, in case you don't listen to the podcast, the Buy Pagan Swag Contest has been extended through this weekend! Why would I do something like that? Well, because I'm sure all of you Rioters are going to join us at the craft fair. While meeting us and supporting a local witchy shop, you'll also earn 5 entries into the Buy Pagan Swag Contest!

It's like a win-win-win!!! 

So keep sending those receipt pics, keep making those donations, and stop by to meet all of your favorite pagan podcasters THIS WEEKEND at Witchy Wearables in Midlothian, IL!

Love and Lyte,

Fire Lyte

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Texas Board of Education Supporting Islamophobia?

The news cycle today has been rife with news that the Texas Board of Education is voting tomorrow (September 24th) on what they're calling the 'balanced treatment of religious groups in textbooks.' What an innocuous statement, right? What could possibly be wrong with promoting a balanced treatment of religions in public schools?

The problem here is that the ruling has really little to do with balancing all faiths/religions and more to do with ousting Islam and promoting Christianity. Recent reports have come out saying that leaders in the Texas education system claim that social studies textbooks in schools now have a pro-Islam/anti-Christianity message. Interestingly enough, ABC reports that the guy saying textbooks are too anti-Christian is the same exact guy who made sure that textbooks already got one conservative overhaul earlier this year. The same exact guy promoting the anti-Islam/pro-Christian resolution is the same one who said there needed to be more Biblical focus in the social studies curriculum, and any remote reference to certain non-Christian leanings of the founding fathers had to be removed (along with sections on Martin Luther King, Jr. and a few other civil rights issues). And, oh yeah, 'slavery' is too incorrect a term now... It paints white folks in a bad light.

Gail Lowe, the governor-appointed president of the board of education, dismissed the criticism that the proposal, which she supports, is anti-Muslim. "The resolution is not attacking that religious group," she said. "There are some entities that like to stir up controversy even when there isn't any." Lowe said she hasn't studied the textbooks or the passages called into question by the resolution, which would bear her signature should it pass, but that she intends to before Friday. The critics, she said, are "unnecessarily worrying. It has nothing to do with anyone's personal religious beliefs," she said. The proposal doesn't say children shouldn't learn about Islam, Lowe noted, just that there should be more emphasis on Christianity to give students a balanced education.

Lowe said she's been told that the textbooks treat other religions, such as Judaism, Confucianism, Sikhism and Buddhism, in the same light as Islam, but only Christianity seems to be demonized. The resolution however, does not mention any other religions besides Islam.

Now, I'm not one to jump on the Christianity is evil bandwagon, and I'm not going to do so here, but...really? How is this not Islamophobia? To say that Christianity should specifically take precedence in the public school classroom while Islam - specifically - should be downgraded (if not completely removed) is the opposite of education.

Obviously, it would be quite one-sided to report this occurrence without showcasing the vast public outcry against such legislation. Leaders from each end of the political spectrum - from far-right to far-left - have come out against this.

"It's clearly just an attempt to propagandize the state's student population against the faith of Islam," said Ibrahim Hooper, spokesman for the Washington D.C.-based Council on Islamic-American Relations. "Somehow they were getting too rosy a picture of Islam."

Bigger picture here is that Texas' education system is so large, there are so many children educated in its hallways, that forcing publishers of Texas' social studies textbooks to change their content will change the content for many states around the US. 5 million students are educated in Texas, which is a lot more than many other states. Because of the strange changes done to textbooks recently, California has a bill pending that will make sure to not purchase any textbooks changed due to Texas legislation. tee hee


According to the resolution (which can be found in its complete form here):

Diverse reviewers have repeatedly documented gross pro-Islamic, anti-Christian distortions in social studies texts.

Board member Pat Hardy, R-Fort Worth, suggested the issue may be moot because none of the books cited by Rives still are being used in Texas, having been replaced in 2003, and said Rives "might want to go back and get newer copies of the books."

It's quite hilarious to me that the proposal opens by counting the number of lines of text in a textbook to find that Christian beliefs and practices had 128 less lines of text than Islam, specifically. Now, normally this kind of thing would be relegated to some uber-conservative blog or newsfeed, but it's gotten all the way to a vote. Let me say that again, this time using the big letters:

THIS BOLLOCKS HAS GOTTEN TO A VOTE!

And, as many commentators have put it, it's probably going to be very close, despite the mass dissent. Despite the fact that the textbooks in question have not been in schools in 7 years, this narrow-minded, Islamophobic, irrational, nut job proposal might very well become the way things are for 5 millions students. 5 million children might easily become 5 million adults who have been programmed by this kind of ruling to demean and belittle Islam.

Some educators fear the debate might lead to a revision of history. "I was a social studies teacher, and, I’m sorry. History is what it is. It happened," Gayle Fallon of the Houston Federation of Teachers told CBS affiliate KHOU. Fallon said the claim that books devote more lines to Islam that Christianity is baseless anyway. "I’ve talked to the history teachers. They say there’s nothing there," Fallon said. "A textbook should not proselytize for any side. It should present fact. And, from what we’ve seen of the text, they present fact."

Children should be given facts, as closely to the truth as we can make them, as honestly as we can deliver them. Then, they should be allowed to make up their own minds. The best that we can do now is pray that sense and reason take hold in the board's vote tomorrow. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed, anticipating a vote that is pro-education. Balanced. Tempered. True education.

I'll also be praying that Texas - and America - doesn't turn into a legitimate Theocracy one bigoted ruling at a time.

Love and Lyte,

Fire Lyte

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Show me your Samhain decorations!

My Samhain decorations are up, and my house is festive! Click here for a quick video tour of the baubles around my house.

Send me YOUR Samhain decor pics! Have you started decorating, yet, or are you waiting until it's actually October? What's your favorite piece? Your newest? Your oldest?

What are your favorite traditions?

I'm EXCITED! 'Tis the season of the witch!

Oh, and anybody wanna buy me a mask from Pier 1???

Love and Lyte,

Fire Lyte

Episodes 40 & 4 are OUT!


Episode 4 of Inciting A BrewHaHa is available for download NOW! Velma and I discuss pagan community stereotypes and their better halves.

Also, there is mention of Cummingtonite.

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News: Burning the Quran, Immigration really isn’t that bad, Discovery Channel promotes procreation (and that’s bad), DADT, and British chicks like cheesy pick-up lines.

Word of the Day: decimate

Gripe Department: News complete with spin!

Spirituality: Doughtheism

Music: Better People by india.arie

Book Review: The Trouble With Poetry and other poems by Billy Collins

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DADT Battle Lost & Blessed Mabon

We lost the battle, but the war rages on. I guess one can never take legislation for granted, as I had actually gotten to the point in my reasoning where I just assumed it would be repealed. I just assumed that given the media scrutiny, the administration's backing of repeal, and the call for change by the people...I assumed that would be enough.

I could blame Republicans for legislating morality. I could blame Democrats for not being smarter about the vote's timing. I could blame you and me for not making our voices heard in enough time. I could blame the sky for being blue and the grass for being green and the seasons for changing, but nothing would be different. We would still be living in a day where DADT is still a law on the books.

But, now we band together. We continue the fight. We do not stop. We take nothing for granted.

WE RIOT!

On a Pagan note: Today is MABON!!! For me, today is all about getting ready for the fall. Putting Samhain/Halloween decorations out. Maybe doing a bit of harvesting from the herb garden. I'll make a harvest feast for my family. I wish you all the most blessed Autumnal Equinox. May you find a sense of balance and progress as we move through the Wheel. 

On a Gleeful note: The season premiere of Glee came on last night!!!!! Yeah!!! Life is right again! Charice and Lea Michele facing off in the bathroom while singing Telephone was simply...Epic. Next week is the amazing Britney episode! My socks have already been knocked off a week early.

Love and Lyte,

Fire Lyte

Monday, September 20, 2010

Lady Gaga yells at DADT. & VOTE TODAY!!

Celebrities - on occasion - add their fame to various causes. Lady Gaga has taken up the fight against Don't Ask, Don't Tell. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm very glad that Gaga has become involved with the cause, but after seeing her speech she gave in Maine today...I'm not sure it helped anything.

It most certainly didn't hurt anything that she stood up and called for the repeal of DADT, specifically calling out Senators John McCain, Olympia Snowe, and Susan Collins. However, you could tell that the Lady was trying to find a middle ground between pop star and political activist. The speech vacillated between song lyrics and high school debate. Don't be fooled, however, because Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanotta had some real gems in her speech. When Stefani was speaking the speech worked. When Gaga took over...well, I just didn't feel the sentiment was appropriate for a political rally.

I think it ended up being a good first political speech, and Gaga just might be a fantastic advocate for minority and civil rights if she just gets Stefani to the podium more often than Gaga. Check out the full speech below and let me know how YOU felt about it.

UPDATE: The vote on DADT is scheduled for today, but a Republican filibuster could halt repeal until next year! Call your Senator (all the info can be found here) and ask for a VOTE! Senator John McCain has publicly stated he would lead a Republican filibuster on the repeal of DADT, and by extension a military spending bill. So, the Republicans-at-large want to punish our men and women of the armed services twice over. 1 by cutting funds and 2 by not letting them serve. #RIOTFORCHANGE!

Love and Lyte,

Fire Lyte

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Never Had A Hero

I am a gay man, and I have never had AIDs. I've never had HIV. I've never even had an AIDs/HIV scare. Not ever experienced what it's like to have any sort of STD. I am a gay man that never really experienced the kind of physical abuse that you read about or see on the news in some cases. Sure, I suffered psychologically at the hands of small town children that didn't - and for the most part still don't - understand what it means to have compassion or growth or acceptance. And these scars I carry.

I have dreams still. It's funny how much of my formative years is not even really a distant memory, not even in passing recollection. I recently told my mother that out of an unbelievably tiny graduating class of 64 students, I would be hard pressed to remember both names and faces of 10. So much of it is behind me, thanks to the power of repression and distance and time and prayers to the Goddess to take this grief from me. But, there are the dreams. The dreams where I am bigger than my oppressors and the ones where I am still the silent boy getting beaten up with fists of tongue and fists of flesh. The dreams where I am told how small I am, the dreams that recollect events forgotten, and the ones where I say exactly what I wished I had said.

I never had a hero. I never had one specific person that I looked to and said, "Because of his/her bravery, I, too, can be brave." One person doesn't stick out in my mind. Sure, you can say Matthew Shepard was influential, but because of my age at the time of his death and the amount of news coverage that wasn't covered in our community, I had no real attachment to the story. He was a textbook, a chapter, a paper written and a source referenced. But he is a hero. To someone.

In fact, I find heroes all the time now. I read stories done by the Advocate, see them on Oprah and Rachel Maddow, watch as pop stars and movie stars put them in the spotlight, and I see heroism. Those that can not only be themselves, be comfortable in their skin, but can be much more than themselves. They can be icons, demigods, heroes that will live into legend, at least in the hearts of some. Those of us that grew up the ugly, skinny, gay kid in the small town can now see something of value inside.

And I am proud. I am proud that this generation has that. I am proud that even in those tiny towns void of connection, compassion, advocacy, acceptance...even in those towns exist a television. Those kids can sneak glances of a world where there are people that will love them and know them for who they are and still invite them to Thanksgiving dinner. Their partner, too.

That's the scene I saw in the movie Latter Days that I wanted for myself. That was the first movie I saw that I ever wanted to emulate. The scene at the end of the pseudo romantic comedy where the two beautiful guys ended up together, gathered around a table of friends. A hodgepodge family. I knew that was going to be my life. For a while that was my life. My family really had little information about my personal life, because that's how they wanted it, and I didn't want to push the envelope. And then a miracle happened and now my family includes my hodgepodge and it's all one big messy, still sometimes uncomfortable, group of people that love one another.

I see these heroes more and more. Service men and women that give to their country for decades and then are let go for grade school gossip mongering and barely substantiated reasoning. I see article after article after article highlighting the heroes of today, and I am struck at how young they all look. When I was growing up those folks on television seemed so much older, so distanced from who I was, that I could not possibly relate. But, now, you see 14, 15, 16 year olds on television, in schools, respectfully asking for respect and tolerance and showing the generation on the crest of becoming decision-makers how to live bravely and openly.

And I weep. I weep because it's so amazing, and I weep because I am thankful that I never had to go through the stories you see on television. Now, sure, do I have wounds? Did I get beaten up more times than I could count? Did I get taunted by nearly everyone in my school, including teachers, and have no sense of justice? Yes. Could I have been one of those people in an article today? Probably. But I am not, and was not. And I still have my limbs and my loves and my good sense. My brain wasn't knocked around that hard.

As a postlude to this musing, I was pondering last night at the gym about my journal. I kept a journal in high school. The same journal. Leather-bound, nice, with the word JOURNAL embossed on the front. It was a gift my freshman year from my uncle - my mentor. Of course, I didn't write in it everyday, but I did fill it with four years of events. Pains. Inner thoughts. Daily blather. I remember that I filled the very last pages on my graduation day from high school. It moved with me from Texas to West Virginia, and it became lost. In fact, I don't even remember having it after the move. It is as though the universe swallowed up all of my pain in a book. It has never been found by anyone, as far as I can tell. It is simply in that void of lost things. And, that's fine. It can stay there. I don't need to remember the faces and the names and things. I don't need the dreams to be refreshed from the well of my past. The journal, I think, was there for me to pour my hurt in to, and then - like a ritual - to be destroyed, so that I might be allowed to move on.

Everybody should be given that grace.

Love and Lyte,

Fire Lyte

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Aiming the pitchfork at a Target

Recently, that is to say just a few hours ago, I was made aware of a truly disturbing event. More than anything else I've seen or read lately, this particular revelation will effect not just me, but all of you amazing Rioters as well. In a way, I feel a sense of responsibility to let you all know before you wake up tomorrow and find out for yourself. Believe me, though, by the time you read this, I'm sure at least one person you know will be deeply effected by this news.

Deep breath, Rioters. This one will hurt...

THIS YEAR'S TARGET HALLOWEEN DECORATIONS SUCK!

I know... I know... It's really a shocker. Each year around this time I spend an afternoon perusing the latest collection of kitschy, cutesy, beautiful yet practical Halloween/Fall decor in Target's seasonal section. They have a selection of classic, transitional baubles and items that not only work for October, but carry through Thanksgiving. While their witches, vampires, mummies, and monsters can err on the cartoony side, the store always provides a massive variety of types of decorations. There are simple pumpkins, beautiful metalwork, and things you could almost keep year 'round. On the opposite end are the yearly varieties of childlike, Halloween cartoon characters.

All fun. All interesting. All usually of good quality and at a reasonable price. That is until this year.

I went for my yearly early perusal of the goods and found the laziest most un-thought-out mess of crap ever put on shelves. It looked worse than the leftover bin after the third markdown of decorations from the cheap party store you never go to...because it's full of cheap crap. There was nothing fun, nothing new, nothing you couldn't get anywhere else for so much cheaper. It looked like Wal Mart's unpurchased items. 

In short, I was utterly disappointed. Sure, I have decorations, but part of the yearly fun of Samhain preparations is finding new items to add to the household collection. I am so disheartened. 

So, where should I point my shopping nose? What's a good store that has fun kitschy items right alongside classic designs?

BOOO TARGET!!! First you support anti-gay supporters and now you take the awesome decorations away. 0 for 2!

Love and Lyte,

Fire Lyte

Monday, September 13, 2010

Fear-Mongering Considered

Fear-mongering. Scaremongering. There are different words to describe this method of influencing the public; they all mean the same thing. Fear-mongering occurs when a person or group needlessly raises alarms - i.e. instills fear - in another person or group about another person or group usually to influence that initial group to do something.

This is a tactic that has been used by religious groups, government agencies, animal rights groups, civil rights groups, and on and on and on. It's a dirty, disgusting tactic used time and again when a group cannot be up front about their cause. Or, when a group has become so entrenched in their particular sub-group that they believe their own lies. Since this tactic has been employed for decades, we are now in a generation of people that have been raised by parents that were led to believe a set of falsehoods, a set of fears.

Everyone is affected by fear-mongering in some way. The Liberal news anchor giving their editorial view of the current events is subtly telling you how evil Conservatives are - not outright - but in such a way that you're pretty sure Republicans in office are evil. And, of course, vice versa. Fox News and MSNBC do a great job of pitting Republicans against Democrats and Democrats against Republicans, respectively. Any well-informed citizen should know that most of the editorial news shows are put on by fabulous spin doctors.

However, there is a kind of fear-mongering that I am so unbelievably over. I am unbelievably sick of the folks that instill fear by playing the victim. The folks that spin the news to somehow always make it about them, their group, or their cause.

Por ejemplo: Gay 'news agencies' that want to put a gay spin on things like the Gulf Coast Oil Spill or agricultural spending.

Specialized news agencies that come at current events from a niche perspective tend to do two things:

  1. Vilify an entire group because of a few bad apples, and thus condition their followers to be afraid of that group.
  2. Somehow make any and all news events about that group, whether they were even tangentially related or not.
This past weekend an event called Burn a Koran Day was halted. The event was initially started by pastor Terry Jones, a man my mother told me she is so glad isn't from Texas. Jones is the pastor of a supposed non-denominational church called Dove World Outreach Center and is the author of the book Islam is of the Devil. (Whose review section is just a lovely little debate and worth a quick read.)

Now, any idiot who can follow the greater conversation about Islam can tell what the motivation for this is: ever since September 11, 2001, many Americans have the idea that Islam - which means 'peace in submission to the will of God/Allah' - is a religion based on killing white folks. What has helped keep this lie going when big named conservatives like George W. Bush publicly denounce this line of thinking? Fear-mongering.

This is the subtle kind, though. This subtle scare tactic basically uses the same core keywords and phrases - party lines, if you will - about issues. Using this method, one begins to associate two seemingly disparate ideas as one in the same. I'd like to provide some examples of supposed facts that aren't facts, but that have been ingrained within us due to subtle conditioning:

  1. Black people don't tip. Not true! I have been a server in several restaurants. Black people tip! 
  2. Gay people should not adopt because they like having sex with children. And animals. And pretty much everything else. Must I defend this one?
  3. There are/were weapons of mass destruction in Iraq. OR Iraq had something to do with the terrorist attacks on 9/11. Both of these news bits have been proved false, but since our government doesn't want to look like tyrannical buffoons they chose to continue the spin for 8 years.
Each of these, in their own way, has been subtly conditioned by some group or another into our psyche. These are facts that are so well-known that we almost take their veracity for granted, assuming they must be true, because for it to be otherwise would mean living in Bizarro World. I'd like to look at one last scare line that has me seriously worried before I leave the topic:
  1. America is a mostly Christian nation. Christians are in every level of government and are attempting to spread Christianity while specifically attempting to either lock up or convert pagans. Furthermore, there is an underlying anti-pagan rhetoric in nearly every political, religious, or social news story out there.
The only sentence in there that is true is the first one, but...and I need to take a deep breath before I type this...

But that is not what The Wild Hunt blog would have you believe. Most of the time, the Wild Hunt is a Perez Hilton like blog, except the author is not attempting to out closeted gay actors, he is trying to show how pagan Hollywood really is. From the brief brush with Hinduism by Julia Roberts to the supposed spell done by actress Heather Graham, he has this thing for believing one hint at polytheism or magical use makes one an automatic closeted pagan. (Not to mention the miseducation going on about Hinduism being pagan.)

If that were all the blog were, I wouldn't care. I'd probably read it with my latte and a giggle, much the same way I read his Hollywood gossip counterpart. However, there is a troubling, at times disturbing, trend on his blog. He purports the above statement as though it were irrefutable fact. He believes Christians in America are actively seeking to squash out paganism, as though it even registered on most of their radars. He has painted the portrait of Christians as the Pagan Boogeyman, and thousands of readers lap it up. Eagerly. 

Take a look at nearly any news story and watch the spin occur. I had a conversation with a fellow podcaster, who will go nameless, who told me the author of the Wild Hunt is nothing more than the pagan version of CBN. Every news story has a pagan spin to it, whether it tangentially had anything to do with paganism or not. From gay rights to legalizing polygamy, somehow in some way he seems to make it all about pagans. 

And, yes, there is the argument that he is simply presenting news from a pagan perspective, but presenting a perspective and presenting a worldview are two totally different things. One can present a fair and balanced worldview while presenting the news. I know! I've seen me - and many, many others - do it! And, to be fair, the author also never comes out and says, "The Christians are out to get you! Run! Hide! Take your cauldrons and books of shadows, for you may never see them again!"

But he doesn't have to. His wording, his syntax, his tone, they all work together flawlessly to paint an image that has pagans being: a) much more important on the national/world stage than they actually are and b) persecuted by every social, governmental, and media agency out there. 

Should we require those that practice divination for a living to be licensed? Well, not if you read the Wild Hunt! It's an evil conspiracy to further put the Christian thumb on pagan belief. Never mind that nearly any industry has some type of licensing or regulation requirements.

Prop 8 was abolished in California by a judge? Oh, the pagans did that! You know, the pagans had such a huge unified outcry of support for that anti-Prop 8 movement. Except...they didn't. 

And on...

And on...

And on...

Take a look at news stories the author reports dealing with crimes. He has little to no knowledge of how the criminal justice system works (unfortunately for him, I do...what with my having actually worked in the field and having my degree in the subject) and seems to replace knowledge with what he thinks should be true. Cops immediately suspect those evil Devil pagans whenever dead bodies, dead animals, or vials of blood and gongs go missing! Judges want pagans on death row, despite their guilt. I'm not saying that there aren't legal cases involving actual police/legal wrongdoing out there, I'm just saying there is no possible way that they happen in the volume that The Wild Hunt reports. 

Go and read the rest of the articles that the author links to. Usually you'll find that he has taken a few quotes out of context and forgotten to show you the rest. The other part of the story that makes the players out to be a lot more understanding and human that he'd like you to believe. It's subtle. It's believable. It's effective.

And it's dangerous. Many tout the Wild Hunt as an excellent source for pagan news, and I would agree if your version of news likens to Perez Hilton or CBN. If you want both a spin and a worldview served up with your headlines, then go right ahead. Sadly, it seems, many folks only take in The Wild Hunt and his compatriots in the 'Pagan Newswire Collective.' They don't know what is going on in the world at large, except what and how it is reported through the Hunt.

To aim the finger back at me for a moment, I, too, present a worldview. I am a middle-class, suburban, left-wing, tree-hugging, socially liberal, fiscally moderate, homosexual, partnered pagan with one cat who hates the world and a dog who loves everybody. I am almost positive that I put a spin on the news I present. The difference between the two is that I am completely up front and totally own it. However, I'd also like to think that I - and others like me - don't paint a particular group or individual as some type of boogeyman. It's unfair. It's uneducated. It's uninformed. And, it's just plain wrong.

Share your thoughts, and I'm sure you will, in the comments section, with a tweet (@IncitingARiot), or by emailing IncitingARiotPodcast@gmail.com.

I'll go ahead and let you know that comments saying "The Wild Hunt is so effing awesome and majickkkal! You are totally, like, freaking jealous of his magjickal wizdum and success!" will probably not be replied to seriously. Though, double plus bonus, you may end up on my show!

Love and Lyte,

Fire Lyte

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Speaking of the Ill-Informed...

Let's talk about that Glenn Beck rally one more time! The 'Restoring Honor' because apparently it got a bit tarnished rally was held recently in Washington, D.C., led by far right-wing Tea Party Golden Boy Glenn Beck. Now, forgetting the silliness of Beck planning the day as some method to imply that middle-class, Republican, white folks were totally behind civil rights since the beginning (vomit), I would like to draw your attention to something that happens quite often when Beckheads gather.

The New Left Media is a fabulous news project that I've covered on the blog before put on by two college students. They are well-informed on current events, the geopolitical landscape, history, facts, figures, and the exact location of every single far-right gathering of conservatives in America. All the interviewer, Chase Whiteside, does is ask attendees of these events simple questions about current events - such as, "What do you feel are some of the problems facing America today?" - and then asking them to follow up - as in, "Now, why, exactly, do you feel Obama is a socialist because of [cap and trade, his blackness, the fact that he plays basketball, the way he's just so darn calm all the time because...you know...that's just not natural]".

Obviously, conservatives are not all like the people depicted in these videos, and occasionally they get somebody who can discuss matters beyond the talking points they're spoon-fed by Fox news, but the videos are illuminating. They depict an enormous, and ever-growing, segment of the population that is doing what I warn each and every one of you against doing: getting your news/views from one news source. This source, nearly 100% of the time, is Fox News - namely Glenn Beck and Bill O'Reilly. These people have exceedingly skewed, ill-informed, and strongly biased viewpoints centered around faith in the Christian God and faith that what they're being told through these conservative television personalities is accurate.

If you ask them a question as simple as, "How, exactly, do you feel honor has been lost in this country, since you're attending a Restoring Honor rally?" they turn into blubbering buffoons that cannot speak past the sound bites they've been told by their champion, Mr. Beck. They don't want to know that the number of illegal immigrants in this country is lower than it has been in 10 years. They don't want to know that jobs are actually on an upswing or that Obama is a Christian. They still have a hard time believing that there are no weapons of mass destruction in Iraq, and they firmly believe Sarah Palin is getting the bummiest of bum reps.

And while I giggle a bit when I watch these videos, I also get very afraid. This is what happens when people cannot think for themselves, or - perhaps worse yet - are not willing to think about events/situations/views from a different perspective. Their bigotry and intolerance is almost unrecognizable to one another, because they are so steeped in strange, incorrectly wired associations. Every political or social point comes back to God or 'He's a damn socialist/communist/Muslim/etc.' without actually ever knowing what the words 'socialist' or 'communist' or 'liberal' or 'Muslim' or any of the other labels mean. They poke fun and deride liberals with idea-words like 'Obamacare' without knowing a thing about the benefits of a public option or the full effect public healthcare improvement would have on the middle and lower classes. I weep because of what I see in these videos.

My hope, dear pagan Rioter, is that you see these videos and use them as an impetus to KEEP YOURSELVES INFORMED! Arm yourself with knowledge. It is exceedingly powerful, and perhaps so much more so than anything found in a magical text. This anti-social, anti-government, anti-establishment ideology and rhetoric must stop, and it begins with looking beyond the boiled down headline that is forced down our respective throats by the news media. If a television news person is giving their editorial commentary on the actions of a political figure, take a look at at least 3 different news sources - including one newspaper - to get a fuller view of the situation. If Rachel Maddow says that some right-wing ideologue is trying to kill all the gay folks in America, but both Diane Sawyer, the Washington Post, and Anderson Cooper say that's total bollocks, then I'd go with the bollocks.

With all this in mind, and with no further adieu, I give you the latest videos from the Restoring Honor (whatever the hell that means) rally in Washington, D.C.

Please comment, tweet, or email IncitingARiotPodcast@gmail.com with your thoughts!

Love and Lyte,

Fire Lyte







Monday, September 6, 2010

Quick Question: What is an acceptable pagan income?

Occasionally, after a particular article or podcast goes up in some internet venue, I get a flood of emails telling me how wrong I am to pretend that pagans or witches can be middle-class, upper-middle-class or beyond. After my article this week on Witch Vox, the pattern is repeating itself.

I got a strongly worded email from a reader of the article who told me the following:

Hahahahaha, farking hillarious! Middle class suburban Pagans. These are women that never grew out of the farce of rich college girls casting spells (booga, booga) in their dorm rooms at night, waiting to graduate and marry the right man, picked out by their parents, who will show them the road to and keep them on the path to the Good Christian Corporete Life. If someone is living the cookie cutter, glass house suburban life, they're no Pagan or witch. A pagan or witch woud change their life, no matter what it takes, to something meaningfull to them.and healthy for those dependent upon them. Me thinks you be a bullsh*t artist young Sir. Please don't cast a spell (booga, booga) on me. I just have spent too much time with the Goddess to put up with nonsense like that. May you and those who listen to you find your way...Blessed be..DD PS Illinois...No wonder!

Yes, that would be the email in its entirety, and no, I didn't alter anything. It really is that condescending and poorly spelled.

So, before I give my rebuttal, I was curious as to what you - the Rioters - had to say about this. Is there a particular level of income a pagan has to have in order to be legitimately pagan? Is having a stable, lucrative career a no-no if you also want to be a dirt-worshipping wand-waver? Was the point of my article lost, and did I unintentionally say that living a cookie cutter existence was favorable? (I thought I took care of that by the 5th sentence.) Is living a middle-class life unhealthy for those that depend on you?

And, I suppose most importantly, how much time does one have to spend with the Goddess before one is a complete jackass?

Leave me your comments in the form of an email, including anything else you think fits. I'd like to use this as a forum for discussion on the matter until later in the week.

Love and Lyte,

Fire Lyte

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Sleepless Job-Related Prattle

Most of the time I don't sleep more than 7-8 hours. On rare occasions when I am exhausted, I've taken a shower the night before, the bed feels warm, and snoring doesn't wake me up I can sleep that blissful 10 hour night. Usually, though, I'm good if I hit 7 hours.

I say I'm good if that happens, because it usually doesn't. I usually am too tired to shower before bed after a long day, so I don't feel as comfortable as I'd like. I've usually got a lot on my mind. And snoring usually always keeps me up. Last night was no different.

Yesterday's workday was less than stellar. Sure, I sold $1500 worth of merchandise, but I also had $1500 in returns. So, I barely broke even. Sucks. Also, after spending half the day putting out new merchandise and redoing the visuals for my department, my GM decided it needed to be redone. Then, of course, I had to clean up my GM's mess, because it looked awful afterwards. But...that's just par for the course in retail. It really didn't get to me, or, at least, I didn't think it got to me.

Last night I was tossing and turning, not for any of the above reasons (okay...okay...I hadn't showered, but that really wasn't it), but because I was dreaming about work! I know! I'm pathetic! I dreamt that the new girl was now also taking over my department, which really shouldn't bother me, and I kept dreaming about getting more and more returns, and it was all just so silly... So, that feeling you get after spending a few hours in Dreamland, waking up feeling ready for a new, better day? Yeah... I'm still living in 9:30p last night with the feelings of, "Gods, today sucked!"

I know the advice. Wind down after work. Take a jog to get my mind off things. Listen to music or watch the new Margaret Cho DVD I just got in from Netflix. (Yes, I think I'll do that.) But, the interesting thing is, I was having a conversation with Partner last night about how my boss is her job. I actually feel a little sorry for her in that regard, although she could very easily be running the company before she's 30. This is the exact kind of thing I was talking about, however.

How weird/pathetic/tragic is it that I dreamt all night of work?

As I always say: Any dream that doesn't involve Tom Welling is a total waste of sleep.

Love and Lyte,

Fire Lyte